Okay. I guess I'm in my stirring things up mode. Last week,
crowdsourcing, and today, well, today I take on the topic of misunderstood
tweets.
I read an article online recently that told us that we should "think of Twitter as email." It was an interesting statement, in light of an experience I had last week.
Your tweets can engage your followers
Twitter lets us all be writers. Even if we wouldn't touch blogging with a 10-foot-pole. It's short and pithy, 140 characters or less. So it makes you focus on your message, right?
Another part of Twitter's charm is its ease of use, its ability to instantly connect you with hundreds, if not thousands, of people. The interactivity of it can make you feel you are in a conversation, that you are just talking to friends. Sharing real-time thoughts.
Your tweets can show your unique self
Twitter allows us to be honest, authentic and transparent. These are the pillars of social media, are they not?
I love the ways I have gotten to know people in deeper ways, people I have never met in person. Someone I follow likes to write with fountain pens that spill ink out in goopy splats. Me too. Someone is reading one of my all-time favorite children's books to her daughter. I send a private message and tell her if she likes that one, she has to read her "The Wind in the Willows" next.
Twitter has a way of helping us get to know others better, just based on one- to two-sentence snippets. People don't always share their deepest thoughts but, over time, we, feel like we know them.
Your tweets can offend—or be misunderstood
I read recently about a PR agency executive, who on a visit to a city that shall remain unnamed, got in a lot of trouble because he tweeted, "If I had to live here, I would die."
Only problem: it was the city his major client was headquartered in. And the client read his tweet. He was not happy. Ah, the power, the immediacy of Twitter.
My story pales by comparison. Yet it was real to me. Here's what happened. Someone I was following tweeted a quote from one of my favorite poets:
"The worst enemy of creativity is self-doubt."
Good quote. I love it. But then he added something about the next worse enemy of creativity being suicide.
Plagued by depression her whole life, this poet did indeed kill herself. And if it didn't happen that we had a very painful suicide in our family 10 years ago, and that I now provide pro bono copywriting for an agency that works with the mentally ill, well, I might have laughed at his tweet. It was clever.
Yet I was offended. As I look back, he was probably, in his own way, reflecting on the loss of a brilliant creative soul—not through self-doubt, but through the taking of her own life.
The big question: Why couldn't I see his perspective? Because I was too close to the subject. Because I was bringing my own unique set of experiences to it.
What's the bigger point here?
In a thoughtful blog post in January '09, Web strategist Jeremiah Owyang said that "Twitter is often taken out of context, it's happened to me." He goes on to say, "When you tweet, you're publishing. Don't say anything you wouldn't say to someone's face."
That's a good way to look at it, I think. We are all publishing when we tweet. As a writer myself, who aches to get into conversations with my readers, I know that, with the exception of this blog, I am just putting my stuff out there. I don't know what my readers are thinking
And even with my blog, I often have a fairly insignificant number of commenters, readers who engage me if they are confused or have additional thoughts on a blog topic.
The bigger point? With social media, we don't always know who we are talking to. And that is exactly my point. Everyone makes their own assumptions, based on their personal perspectives and unique experiences.
Now I'm not saying this tweeter said anything wrong. But I took it wrong. And since he didn't know me, how could he know where I was coming from?
Yet I wonder, what if you made that same comment in a bar, or on someone's living room couch. To someone you didn't know—or had just met? Would you still say it? Or would you think that, in the case of the tweet about hating someone's home town or the one about a mentally ill poet who killed herself, that the subject might touch someone personally?
I read something that PR professional John Bell said recently about tweeting. He talked about the ".08 rule," .08 being the time it takes to ask yourself three questions:
"Does this need to be said?"
"Does it need to be said by me?
"Does it need to be said by me now?"
I'm keeping those questions handy.
How about you? Does transparency rule on Twitter? Or can a tweet ever cross the line—or possibly be misinterpreted by a follower? Should we be in a self-censor mode when we tweet? I'd love to hear your thoughts.





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